BOYS, DATING, DRAMA!!!

I am a teen girl who has for months been thinking about this topic. it is a topic that no parent and no teen want to bring up but we need to. Parents don't realise how much teens think and know about this topic. It's normal for all teens, twelve year olds included to date. And often in the early teen years, dating means having a boyfriend. And as you get older it starts being more like going on real dates.

Teens date often because one; they want to fit in or two; they want to feel loved and having a boyfriend makes you feel loved and pretty and noticed and important. It can be hard not dating and fitting in, this world says without a boyfriend you are not that important, I have been asked from people before if I had a boyfriend, both christians and none christians. People look at me like I am expected to have a boyfriend. And it's tough when people ask you this and you say no and they get this look of I don't know. Shock?

And as a Christian teen who was raised in a christian household, all you hear is no, no and no. Some parents give reasons well others don't. But for me neither of these worked. I didn't care about what my parents said and that got me in some big trouble. It wasn't for months after that I had this big moment.

It had been a hard day and I was muddled up and my life had been drama after drama and I was tired, sore and heartbroken. And I was asking God why I couldn't date. I had seen the pain, I had been there done that but that wasn't enough. So that night I decided that I didn't care, I was hurt and broken and I needed God and that moment I sat there in the bathroom crying, and I forgave everyone of those boys who had broke my heart and I promised God to wait for the guy he had for me.

I am still waiting but that changed me. I no longer was angry at my parents and the no dating rule. No actually I stood for it. It is still hard, we are humans we all have the desire to date, to fit in, to be loved. But when we look to boys we get broken even badder. A few weeks after this happened I did a search looking through scripture to find what God said about dating, it was incredible to see what God had to say! and I will try to do a post on that soon but for now the thing I found was the two outcomes that come from a dating relationship.

1. you get married
2. you break up

And that just blew my mind, because most people we date we would never marry. they are nice enough, maybe even a christian but we are still leaning toward heartbreak. As a girl, I know when relationships fail we often blame it on the boys when it was partly our fault to, being in a relationship when we would never marry that person, we were already leaning toward heartbreak.

Now I am not saying you have to swear of dating. no way. I didn't even do that, I just promised to WAIT. You have to make that decision between yourself and God. but I just want to leave you with the bible verse that answered my question about dating and it was this

"Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, love, peace with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)

And for me as I read this I was certain of my decision to wait, God bless you and may he continue to be with you as you battle the struggles of this world, and may you prevail